grandparenthood · Human Dignity · Motherhood · Relationships

Titus 2, Part I: Elders, You are Still Needed!

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He got into a boat and his disciples followed him. Suddenly a violent storm came up on the sea, so that the boat was being swamped by waves; but he was asleep. They came and woke him, saying “Lord, save us! We are perishing!” He said to them, “Why are you terrified, O you of little faith?” Then he got up, rebuked the winds and the sea, and there was great calm. The men were amazed and said, “What sort of man is this, whom even the winds and the sea obey?” (Mt. 8:23-27)

This is one of my favorite scriptures. Why do I hold this scripture up as one of my top ten? It is because this scripture reminds me of Jesus’ faithfulness. St. Mathew recounts an incident when Jesus’ disciples were caught in the eye of a storm. Where was their friend Jesus? He was fast asleep in the boat. I find great comfort in that scripture. It reminds me that Jesus is always with me, He never leaves me. More importantly, it reminds me that we, like the disciples, are human. We get scared and sometimes panic. We lose faith and cry out, “Jesus, Where are you?” When the “storms of life” sail our way, our faith is sometimes cast overboard, no matter how closely we are following Him. As the waves rise against us, so do our fears rise. Not only that, but our doubts increase, crushing our hopes in the face of the storm.

Are you sailing along in the eye of a storm, worrying that your boat is going to sink? Where do you go? What do you do? Do you feel all alone? I assure you Jesus is there. He never sleeps, nor will he ever forsake you.

But…

Sometimes we need “Jesus with skin on.” People need people and women need women. Never does a woman need another woman more than in the vocation of marriage. On her wedding day, a bride takes the hand of her groom and they begin to walk together into the unknown. It helps to have an older woman, a “Titus II Woman”, in your life that has done the journey before you and has the blisters to prove it. They have the GPS, so they can navigate your boat with the help of God’s grace, and lead it to safe shores. They will become the arms of Christ, to carry you through. A “Titus II Woman” is “Jesus with skin on”!

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I am a “Titus II Woman:” “Similarly, older women should be reverent in their behavior, not slanderers, not addicted to drink, teaching what is good, so that they may train younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, chaste, good homemakers, under the control of their husbands, so that the word of God may not be discredited.” (Titus 2:3-5) A “Titus II Woman” is a woman who has walked the path toward maturity. She has learned to know God, to love God, and to serve God, and desires to teach others how to follow Him. She walks in the footsteps of the “Proverbs 31” woman:

“Who can find a woman of worth? Far beyond jewels is her value. Her husband trusts her judgment; he does not lack income. She brings him profit, not loss, all the days of her life. She seeks out wool and flax and weaves with skillful hands. Like a merchant fleet, she secures her provisions from afar. She rises while it is still night, and distributes food to her household, a portion to her maidservants. She picks out a field and acquires it; from her earnings she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength; she exerts her arms with vigor. She enjoys the profit from her dealings; her lamp is never extinguished at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her fingers ply the spindle. She reaches out her hands to the poor, and extends her arms to the needy. She is not concerned for her household when it snows— all her charges are doubly clothed. She makes her own coverlets; fine linen and purple are her clothing. Her husband is prominent at the city gates as he sits with the elders of the land. She makes garments and sells them, and stocks the merchants with belts. She is clothed with strength and dignity, and laughs at the days to come. She opens her mouth in wisdom; kindly instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband, too, praises her: “Many are the women of proven worth, but you have excelled them all.” Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting; the woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Acclaim her for the work of her hands, and let her deeds praise her at the city gates. ; taking care of the domestic needs of her household.” (Prov. 31:10-31)

When a woman faces a storm in her life, an older woman knows what to do because she has weathered a storm or two, herself. An older woman is formed in character by God for a purpose. She cares about the following younger generation. She holds them in her heart and carries them before God in prayer. Moms cannot be everywhere. So God in His wisdom called older women to teach the younger women as spiritual mothers. This is a call by God. Younger women, I encourage you to find a “Titus II Woman” to mentor you. She will teach you how to find joy in your vocation as a wife and mother. She will guide you in your faith, instruct you in applying the Word of God to your life and be an example of a “Proverbs 31” woman to you.

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