He left. And when he left I didn’t speak of it for a year. I was twelve or thirteen, really just a little girl trying to be big, and never spoke of it to anyone outside our home for at least that long. The fear and shame and hurt was so deep that I had… Continue reading Turning Skeletons to Relics
In honor of World Breastfeeding Week this week, we’re going to talk breastfeeding support. It’s been over a decade of nursing that I’ve now put in. Five babies to raise with a few months of breaks here and there means I’ve spent the better part of the last thirteen years with a breastfeeding child. I… Continue reading The Breastfeeding Support that Made a Difference
“The children born to them – and here is the challenge – should consolidate that covenant, enriching and deepening the conjugal communion of the father and mother.” – Pope John Paul II, Letter to Families After I read those words a few months ago I was simultaneously relieved and convicted. It can be a challenge indeed… Continue reading My Children Aren’t the Enemy to My Marriage (even when it feels like it)
I’ve had the feeling myself and I’ve heard it expressed among a lot of friends. “Where is the Church during …?” At the most difficult or the most profound moments of our lives, we want…something. Something official that shows that these huge and life-altering moments are recognized by the body of Christ. We want… Continue reading Where is the Church in Pregnancy, Miscarriage, and Birth?
Advent is here again. I love that over the years the Advent and Christmas traditions in our home have solidified to something normal and rhythmical. We don’t do any of them perfectly and oftentimes in the thick of night prayers or lighting the oh-so-tempting candles at the dinner table there is, of course, still arguing… Continue reading Dear Mom, Advent Is for YOU, too.
Losing our baby ripped my world apart and it felt like it would never, ever be quite right again. In the years since I’ve realized that while the grief lessened and the wound healed, the life – and loss – of that baby changed me forever.
We are far from where we need to be but the movement has been growing for years and is finally making some headway in mainstream birth. But just as it is true that mothers have the right to a dignified birth and true evidence based care, they also have a right to that when it comes to miscarriage.